You don’t really need to rely on stages with your relationship. You’re relationship can be anything you want it to be, it shouldn’t be labeled as this kind of stage or this kind of stage. Just let it be. Just really love each other and what I mean with really love each other is genuinely, truly, undoubtedly, love each other. That’s best thing you can do for your partner and that’s to really love them. It sounds easy to do but love, real love is consistent. It does not boast, it does not envy. True love is pure, purer than the crystal waters and so pure that when you drink it, it’s something that you can really be addicted to. That is love and too many relationships fail because simply, they don’t have love in the equation. They have pure lust for each other, which is also highly addictive and often times mistaken for love, which I really think it shouldn’t because they are really not the same at all and not even a distant relative or something. Lust is the definition of the lowest form of flattery. If mocking is the best for of flattery, the lowest would be lust. It’s now really a compliment if someone lusts over you, more like it’s abusive and it leaves your energies sapped by the lustful person. You could both be so lustful that you both feed on each other’s energies and leave each other drained, that’s why your relationships fail. Western culture relationships are so superficial that all they think about is sex and making love but they don’t really have love at all in their relationship. They have pure lust and with pure lust, there comes the problems in the relationships that would really be fixed easily if you really loved each other in the first place. This is a lot to take in, I really know and I get what you may be thinking but bear with me. You just have to forget about your pride right now and say that I am right and what you believed in all these years about true love is actually true lust and you have to tell me I’m right. You can’t disprove me on this one, not like most internet trolls do. This comment is so smart that it can defend itself no matter what you reply.
But, but your narcissist seems really sincere when they say how much they miss you? Okay, there may a grain of truth to that. However, it would be more accurate to say that your narcissist misses the ease you brought to their life and the supply you provided. That’s not love and you deserve better. Continuing to engage with your former narcissist in any fashion allows her or him to continue to feed off of you. It’s time for you to take back your power and resources for yourself. Let the narcissist siphon resources elsewhere, or, heaven forbid, finally do for themselves.